Wedding pictures!

All photo and editing credit goes to the amazing Jonathan Baek! As you can see, he did a fantastic job, so go check out his other work at jonathanbaek.com! At the moment he’s based in Queens, so if you’re in need of great photos, give him a call.

Tom, Jon, and I became friends back in college at SUNY Geneseo where we all met in InterVarsity. Since then, I have always admired his wonderful photography skills, from our IV powderpuff games to the amazing sunrise on Conesus Lake. Jon was my absolute first choice when Tom and I got engaged, especially since he has photographed a number of weddings of couples also from Geneseo.

So here’s a HUGE thank you to you, Jon – I’m so glad you were with us on our big day, not only as our photographer, but also as our friend.

One month until ‘I Do’!!!!!

Don’t you just love how attractive we are in that featured image?

So this week and a half was more productive and eventful in the wedding planning arena! And the excitement builds more and more each day!!!

I had my dress fitting last Tuesday and – hallelujah!!!!! – it fit (and then some)! The first seamstress came in to zip me up and get an initial view of it. I asked her about getting cutlets, which are basically just the padded cups from a bra, because I’m not well-endowed up there if you catch my drift. She brought two in, slipped them into the top of my dress, and (voila!) I had a little somethin’ somethin’ going on.

The second seamstress came in and got down to business. My first concern was the poofy crinoline/tulle at the bottom of my dress, so she got right to cutting it out. I was really nervous; I mean she was cutting it out of my dress right then and there, so there was no going back! What if this completely ruined my dress?!

Cinderella dress upset gif

Thankfully, when she finished cutting and I let the dress fall, it looked perfect and just how I wanted. Phew!

She ended up having to pin about half an inch on each side along my torso to make the dress hug my body better. After all that pinning, I made sure that I could still sit comfortably and that there would be room if I ate or drank (seeing as I plan to do both the day of the wedding). I was able to sit without hearing any ripping sounds, so I won’t have to stand or starve all wedding day!

I was relieved to find that my shoes worked perfectly with the length of my dress, so no hemming is involved; that saves me $150 right there! The last thing she worked on was the bustle. Now, all 3 of us (Tom’s mom, sister, and I) had thought that a bustle was just one button with one loop to hold the train up off the floor. Easy peasy, right?

Nope. I guess the standard is about 8 buttons and hooks; my dress will have 11. Like, what?! It’s going to take a team of people to bustle the thing! Once she had it all bustled, it looked amazing. I scheduled my final fitting for the 29th so I have to keep up the workouts and healthy eating so that the dress still fits. I won’t get to take my dress home that day because they will still have to press it and the veil after the final fitting.

I met with my photographer, Jon, on Thursday to go over day-of details. It was so great sitting and talking with him – we went to SUNY Geneseo together, so it was nice catching up. I had a few pictures/poses pinned on my Love & Marriage Pinterest board and I knew that I wanted a romantic style with a little fun and silly mixed in. I definitely knew I wanted to take advantage of the beautiful grounds at the country club, and the (fingers, toes, and eyeballs crossed!) beautiful August weather. But other than that, I figured I would wait and get Jon’s opinion.

He was very thorough since he’s done this before and knows what works and what doesn’t. We talked about the overall rough schedule of the day, where certain aspects were taking place, who would be giving toasts, what family members would be included in family pictures, and stuff like that. I’m really, really excited now that we’ve gotten to talk about everything and have a good idea of what will happen on August 16. Go check out Jon’s website/work and tell your friends – he is an amazing photographer!

So in my 7 week update I mentioned the debacle with my mom – I got her a laptop but the nursing home had no flipping idea what the internet password was. Update: they still haven’t figured it out. Like, how have you all survived this long in life? Cue cat face palm.

Cat Face palm gif

I’ve been trying to think of alternative ways but if they can’t get her connected to the internet, live-streaming seems pointless (at least in her case…but she’s the only case at the moment). So Tom and I talked about getting two Go-Pro cameras and setting them up at two different angles in order to catch the goings-on of the ceremony. Then we could edit it and show it to Mom while we’re upstate for the reception. She wouldn’t get to see it as it happens, but it’s better than not seeing anything.

Tom had his bachelor party Friday night with the guys. I got sent a few pictures throughout the night, which was comical, and I’m pretty sure they all had a good time together in Fire Island.

I ordered another piece of my bridesmaids’ gifts. That’s pretty much all I will say about that.

The deadline for RSVPs was Saturday and I still have about 35 people that I have yet to hear from. Sigh. Lots of phone calls/texts/Facebook messages have already been made/sent and many more need to happen.

I am making my own escort card display and that’s what I plan on accomplishing this coming weekend. In the meantime, I’ll be inputing peoples’ names into a template that I ordered on Etsy for the actual escort cards. It’s so convenient and I figured out the font combination that is both legible and pretty – it’s all in the details. I can’t really finalize any of those until I work out the seating chart, which I can’t really do until everyone responds and tells me whether they’re coming or not. Sigh again.

The plan for the seating chart is something I’ve seen on Pinterest and was also told about from friends. So I’ll get a big poster board, draw the floor plan on it with table numbers, write everyone’s names on skinny Post-It notes, and arrange them around the tables. This saves lead, erasers, and time because moving people is as easy as pulling up a sticky note and then laying down said sticky note elsewhere. So smart!

wedding seating chart post-it notes

I talked to a few of our vendors Monday and Tuesday of this week just to make sure things are going kosher-ly (word?). And they are! Once I have a better idea of a final headcount, I can order our cake. I also have an idea for a cake topper, so I’m going to see if I can make one myself or if I need to look into buying one already made.

Side note, let’s hope that the Long Island Rail Road strike doesn’t actually happen because that will be a pain in the ass for us trying to get back and forth from the city to do all this wedding stuff, and for out-of-town wedding guests come August 15 and 16! Fingers crossed!

 Gosh, I think that’s it. I can’t believe we’re only one month away! Can’t wait!

I’ll be Harrigan-ized in 6 weeks!

Another week, another wedding update, and I’m feeling a bit more accomplished this week.

First off, I’ve been dealing with some garbage for the past couple weeks that I won’t get into detail about but have talked to a few people about because it just bugs me so much. It’s frustrating when someone tries and tries and TRIES to make your and your fiancé’s wedding day about themselves and you so badly want to tell them off but realize that you need to be the adult in the situation and just stay calm and cool and instead of blowing up at them and telling them what’s really on your mind and to put them in their place (as they have deserved for many years now) you remain level-headed and explain your perfectly reasonable rationale for decisions you’ve made concerning their part in your big day (for the twelfth time) when you’d rather just tell them not to come because you don’t need the added stress and frustration.

Jennifer Lawrence mad gif

Whew, had to get that off my chest. Moving on…

I sent out the remainder of the Thank You cards for everyone who attended my bridal showers. It felt good dropping the last of them in the mailbox on Wednesday!

I continued hunting for bridesmaids gifts and although it seemed as if I couldn’t come up with anything before, now I have too many ideas and need to narrow them down. Like, now I’m juggling between getting the girls Lamborghinis or Corvettes; how is a girl to choose?!

Haha just kidding because mama don’t sleep on a pile of gold ya know. I mean, does anyone? If so, how is that working out for you? Do you see a chiropractor often?

Anyways, I think I’ve decided what I want to get my girls thanks to Tom – he helps me rationalize things when the emotional and stressed side of me gets too strong – so I’ll get their gifts soon.

OMG Shoes

Also, I bought my shoes!!!!!!! I’m not usually this excited about shoes, although I think I would be if I had cute, non-deformed feet. We’re getting down to the wire here and I’m so glad I finally found a cute pair that fits, seems comfortable enough, and meets the height requirements. I found them at David’s Bridal and found out that they were on clearance – bonus! I need to start breaking those babies in so my feet don’t want to murder me on the day of because foreign objects are rubbing them the wrong way all day.

My dress fitting is this coming Tuesday (so I should probably stop snacking on these Reeses Oreos I bought Tom as part of his birthday gift) so it’s good timing because I need the shoes to wear at the fitting to make sure they aren’t too tall. I also started a new fitness plan called Tone It Up to (try to) keep me motivated and moving throughout the days. I’m going crazy not having a job to keep me busy and occupied and moving all day, so hopefully this helps. I’ve been running regularly but this plan provides toning exercises (they even have a Bridal workout section!) to complete on top of my regular cardio.

Let’s see, what else? Oh! We bought our airline tickets and booked our rental car and hotel for the upstate weekend shindig! I think the credit card was smoking a bit after those purchases. Goodness gracious but that was a big check off the list!

Oh, I actually ended up getting two invitations returned to me this week. Like, thanks USPS for waiting 3 weeks after I sent them to give them back. So I’m sorry to those people who will be receiving theirs with only 2 weeks left to respond. The RSVPs keep coming in. It’s funny because one day there will be none or maybe one in the mailbox, then the next there are about six.

I have been working on getting up an “Our Story” type blog post since this website was created. At first, I figured it would just be my point of view since I’m the one manning the wedding website. But as time has gone on, I decided it would be pretty cool to get both of our perspectives. I tend to write a lot, and I’m very descriptive, and I (sometimes) remember more than Tom does. So instead of just having one post with my POV, I’ve asked Tom to write his perspective of how we met, when we dated, got engaged, etc. So be on the look-out for those posts in the coming weeks!

Wedding Update: 7 weeks to go AND Happy Birthday Tom!!!

First off, make sure you wish Mr. Tom Harrigan a very Happy 26th Birthday (tomorrow)! Although he hates them because they mean he’s getting older, tell him that birthdays are special and he’s becoming wiser and that he needs to enjoy every passing year. Especially because this is the last birthday he spends as an unmarried man, so next year’s will be that much better! I love you, Tom!

Okay, now to the wedding stuff. Less than 50 days ladies and gentlemen!

RSVPs are slowly trickling in; I’m excited every day when I check the mailbox and find one or two tiny envelopes. There are still about 3 weeks left until the respond-by date, so not too much a rush is necessary.

Downstate bridal shower thank-you notes have been sent, so that’s a big check off the list! Most upstate notes have been written but they’re still a work in progress.

We’ll be emailing our venue coordinator, Rich, about our menu selections this week. I remember last August/September when we met with Rich and booked the venue and he told us we didn’t have to choose our menu until two months before the wedding. That seemed like light years but it’s happening so soon now!

Maybe we should contact the cake bakery to give them our decision for the cake, too. And I think we have a couple additions to our florist order, so I’ll call her soon. Heck, I may just talk to all the vendors soon so I can make sure everything will be as it should. And to keep track of the stuff we have vendors for. And to make sure I remember everyone we need to pay. That would be good.

I think we’ll book our accommodations for the upstate reception this week – flight, hotel, rental car, etc.

I started getting some gifts for my bridesmaids, so I feel a little accomplished in that area, but that’s also a work in progress. We’re still working on ideas for Tom’s groomsmen. I mean, how many flasks, tie clips, money clips, cuff links, or pocket watches do guys really need in their lifetime? And do they actually use any of these things, honestly? I could see using the flask once in awhile, but if anything more than that we have a problem. So we’ll see what he ends up going with.

Okay so if you remember I purchased a laptop for my mom so that we could video chat, send emails and pictures, and so that she could watch the wedding. First off, I still have to figure out how that will work in terms of the venue’s Internet situation, where the camera is going to be, whether someone would have to man (or woman) the camera, etc.

Well, when I was upstate, I revealed Mom’s present to her and she was in disbelief. I couldn’t really show her how to use it because it was Sunday so no one was in the office that could tell me the wi-fi password; it’s a Chromebook and everything needs Internet to work. So I went back the next day and wouldn’t you know no one in the office has a clue what the password is. Apparently someone changed it and they can’t remember what they changed it to. Really?

They keep assuring Mom and I that they will set it up for her in my absence and make sure she sees the wedding. It has been over a week now and it still has not been resolved. “That’s just terrific,” is something my mom says when she’s none too happy, so I think that would fit perfectly right here.

I’ve been worrying more and more about my dress fitting coming up in 2 weeks. I mean, what if it doesn’t fit? I know I just had it on a couple weeks ago and it fit, but what if I can’t sit in it comfortably? What if the alterations still don’t make it look like I want it to? And I still haven’t figured out my shoe situation because narrow your search between 1” and 2.5” heels it’s like a no-man’s-land. And if you’re lucky and do get a few results, they aren’t dressy enough or they’re just plain ugly. And I have horrible feet to begin with, so that kills the search completely. I’m going to check out David’s Bridal tomorrow because they seemed to have a few options that weren’t terribly horrible.

I know, I know, #firstworldproblems.

Anyways, that’s pretty much it for now. In the next week or so, as RSVPs continue coming in, we can begin making the escort card display and seating chart, but not much else can be done until head count is finalized.

Happy Birthday Tom and Happy Fourth of July everyone!

Wedding Dream #3: My Dress

Go on and read the first and second wedding dreams for more craziness!

This dream revolved around my dress. The only explanation I can think of for this dream is the fact that I sat and watched Say Yes To The Dress for 3 straight hours on Friday (Bride-day!).

So we open at the rehearsal dinner, which is in an obnoxiously large convention center or grand ballroom at a hotel. There are hundreds of people here, and I’m sitting at one of the tables with a bunch of random people. Tom is nowhere in sight, but Jennifer Garner, who introduces herself as Jen, is sitting across from me.

Hmm, she looks really familiar…

We chat for a bit and a man at my table casually mentions how great this party is.

“Cool, I’m the bride!” I say. Had they not realized this or was he telling me what a great party we were having?

A minute later, this all seems unimportant when I realize that I’m wearing my wedding dress. At the rehearsal dinner. Shoot, Tom might have seen me! Now it won’t be a surprise when I walk down the aisle tomorrow! What was I thinking?!

Luckily, I find a full-sized pillow which I hug to try and cover myself. In my dream, this doesn’t seem weird at all. But thinking about it now, where on earth did this pillow come from? Plus, the table had a tablecloth on it which would have worked just as well.

I gotta make a break for it. I can try to get home quickly, change into a different dress, and hope this one is in perfect shape for tomorrow.

I grab a couple of people I recognize from high school and tell them my plan. The three of them will surround me until I can get out the door and make a run for it.

All is going as planned until I try to get out one set of doors and, of course, that’s where Tom is. He’s chatting someone up, and I don’t think he notices me as I dash the opposite way, to the other set of doors. I bust out of them and just start running.

Now, I must say, I’m impressed with my endurance throughout the next (what would seem to be) half hour. Upon exiting the ballroom, I’m running through a mall concourse. Darting around people, holding my dress up to ensure no falling or tripping or stepping on it occurred.

It has to be pristine when I get it back home.

Then, before you know it, I’m running through a woodsy area, barefoot, and I start noticing that the dress is beginning to look kind of dirty.

Oh, wait, that’s the black felt (yes, I said felt) design that outlines the bust and train. Except I don’t remember my dress having that…

And then the doubt of whether I picked the right dress starts. I’m certain now that Tom will hate the dress. But I guess I liked it enough to get it, so I’ll just have to embrace it.

Plus, I realize how hungry I am. I knew people said you barely have time to eat on your wedding day, but this was only my rehearsal dinner.

I must not have eaten a lot, and now with all this running…I can’t imagine what tomorrow is going to bring!

By the time I reach what I know as home (it was more like a few Geneseo campus housing buildings put in a row…reminiscent, maybe?), my dress was completely filthy.

I ran that entire way and only had trouble running once. In most dreams, I can’t run; it’s like a force is pushing against me. I remember thinking about that in this dream, but since I didn’t realize I was in a dream, I assumed I was just running uphill or something.

My first stop is to the dry cleaner. I run in, ask if they could have my dress done by the next day, and the guy says, “Yeah, for about a million bucks.”

“What?!” is all I can muster.

“I think what he’s trying to say is since you want it done with such short notice and in such a short amount time, it will be pricey,” a woman waiting in line says.

Thanks for the wisdom, ma’am. Crap, what am I going to do?

And then I woke up. Phew, this has got to stop. Except there are 5 months more to go! Oh man.