Gifts and Stockings [Days 18 & 19]

Day 18: When do you open gifts?

This may seem like a weird question; like, they’re Christmas gifts, so obviously you open them on Christmas.

But, I know a few people whose tradition is to open their presents at midnight on Christmas Day. I think it’s a Latino thing. Or some people are just super excited and can’t wait until morning!

My family and I have always waited until morning…err, well, at least a few hours after midnight. As a child, I was a restless sleeper on Christmas Eve, and would wake up a million times until I finally couldn’t take it anymore and would go to my parents’ room at 5 am to see if we could get up. The answer was usually no, but at least I knew that I was that much closer.

I don’t remember when I started to sleep a little later, shower, and eat breakfast before opening gifts. That was during my teens I guess. When I still lived upstate and once Mom was in the nursing home, I would obviously wait until later in the morning or early afternoon to go take her presents and open them with her.

The past couple years with Tom’s family, his younger sister is usually the first to get up because she’s so excited. She then knocks on doors to wake everyone else up because she’s just too excited. She’s 23 haha. We all grab a bite to eat, I think we stay in our pajamas, and sit around and chat for a bit. When it’s time (Tom’s mom delegates when this is) we start with our stockings and then make our way to unwrapping the presents under the tree.

When this post goes up, Tom and I will be on our way to JFK airport to go upstate! I’ll probably give my mom her gifts right away (today) because I got her a few candle wax cubes for her candle warmer and a few of them are Christmas-y scents. I want her to be able to enjoy them before Christmas and for as long as possible. And don’t worry, I don’t think she regularly reads these, so it’s okay that I just told you what I got for her. Although, last time we were up there, I opened her computer to show her how to make a Google+ hangout call with me, and she had my Instagram account up and one of my more recent blog posts! Weird!

Day 19: Favorite stocking stuffer?

Growing up, it was always a tradition that we would get new toothbrushes, chapstick, and scratch-off lottery tickets in our stockings. I have to say, those are the best stocking stuffers. Even though the first two sound boring, like getting socks from your grandmother or something, they are essentials and it sucks when you’re stuck without them! And the scratch-offs, even though they were usually total rip-offs, still provided a little excitement and suspense. I think the most I ever won on one scratch-off from Christmas was $50.

Easiest person to buy for? [Day 9]

Does myself count?

If not, how about “it changes year to year”?

I guess I could say my husband or my mom because I’m in constant contact with them and know them so well. But then again, it’s easy to get in a rut of focusing on a few main facts about a person (they like candles; their favorite color is blue; etc) instead of having a sense of something they would like that doesn’t fit into those categories. And even though I straight out ask them, “What do you want for Christmas this year?” it still gets difficult because they are both people who are going to ask for a lot.

And I don’t really think guys are harder to buy for than girls; girls are individuals with specific likes and dislikes just as guys are. So it honestly depends on the year and how much a person has or needs that will determine whether they are on the easier side to buy for.

So, in conclusion, I will stick with my first answer: in my opinion, when it comes to Christmas shopping for someone, I am the easiest person to buy for because I know myself so well. I know my shoe size without needing to text. I know whether that sweater will enhance my shape or make me look boxy. I know what my most desired products/clothing/shoes/anything is at any moment. I am a piece of cake.

Why does everyone else have to be so difficult??

I’ll be Harrigan-ized in 6 weeks!

Another week, another wedding update, and I’m feeling a bit more accomplished this week.

First off, I’ve been dealing with some garbage for the past couple weeks that I won’t get into detail about but have talked to a few people about because it just bugs me so much. It’s frustrating when someone tries and tries and TRIES to make your and your fiancé’s wedding day about themselves and you so badly want to tell them off but realize that you need to be the adult in the situation and just stay calm and cool and instead of blowing up at them and telling them what’s really on your mind and to put them in their place (as they have deserved for many years now) you remain level-headed and explain your perfectly reasonable rationale for decisions you’ve made concerning their part in your big day (for the twelfth time) when you’d rather just tell them not to come because you don’t need the added stress and frustration.

Jennifer Lawrence mad gif

Whew, had to get that off my chest. Moving on…

I sent out the remainder of the Thank You cards for everyone who attended my bridal showers. It felt good dropping the last of them in the mailbox on Wednesday!

I continued hunting for bridesmaids gifts and although it seemed as if I couldn’t come up with anything before, now I have too many ideas and need to narrow them down. Like, now I’m juggling between getting the girls Lamborghinis or Corvettes; how is a girl to choose?!

Haha just kidding because mama don’t sleep on a pile of gold ya know. I mean, does anyone? If so, how is that working out for you? Do you see a chiropractor often?

Anyways, I think I’ve decided what I want to get my girls thanks to Tom – he helps me rationalize things when the emotional and stressed side of me gets too strong – so I’ll get their gifts soon.

OMG Shoes

Also, I bought my shoes!!!!!!! I’m not usually this excited about shoes, although I think I would be if I had cute, non-deformed feet. We’re getting down to the wire here and I’m so glad I finally found a cute pair that fits, seems comfortable enough, and meets the height requirements. I found them at David’s Bridal and found out that they were on clearance – bonus! I need to start breaking those babies in so my feet don’t want to murder me on the day of because foreign objects are rubbing them the wrong way all day.

My dress fitting is this coming Tuesday (so I should probably stop snacking on these Reeses Oreos I bought Tom as part of his birthday gift) so it’s good timing because I need the shoes to wear at the fitting to make sure they aren’t too tall. I also started a new fitness plan called Tone It Up to (try to) keep me motivated and moving throughout the days. I’m going crazy not having a job to keep me busy and occupied and moving all day, so hopefully this helps. I’ve been running regularly but this plan provides toning exercises (they even have a Bridal workout section!) to complete on top of my regular cardio.

Let’s see, what else? Oh! We bought our airline tickets and booked our rental car and hotel for the upstate weekend shindig! I think the credit card was smoking a bit after those purchases. Goodness gracious but that was a big check off the list!

Oh, I actually ended up getting two invitations returned to me this week. Like, thanks USPS for waiting 3 weeks after I sent them to give them back. So I’m sorry to those people who will be receiving theirs with only 2 weeks left to respond. The RSVPs keep coming in. It’s funny because one day there will be none or maybe one in the mailbox, then the next there are about six.

I have been working on getting up an “Our Story” type blog post since this website was created. At first, I figured it would just be my point of view since I’m the one manning the wedding website. But as time has gone on, I decided it would be pretty cool to get both of our perspectives. I tend to write a lot, and I’m very descriptive, and I (sometimes) remember more than Tom does. So instead of just having one post with my POV, I’ve asked Tom to write his perspective of how we met, when we dated, got engaged, etc. So be on the look-out for those posts in the coming weeks!

Wedding Update: 7 weeks to go AND Happy Birthday Tom!!!

First off, make sure you wish Mr. Tom Harrigan a very Happy 26th Birthday (tomorrow)! Although he hates them because they mean he’s getting older, tell him that birthdays are special and he’s becoming wiser and that he needs to enjoy every passing year. Especially because this is the last birthday he spends as an unmarried man, so next year’s will be that much better! I love you, Tom!

Okay, now to the wedding stuff. Less than 50 days ladies and gentlemen!

RSVPs are slowly trickling in; I’m excited every day when I check the mailbox and find one or two tiny envelopes. There are still about 3 weeks left until the respond-by date, so not too much a rush is necessary.

Downstate bridal shower thank-you notes have been sent, so that’s a big check off the list! Most upstate notes have been written but they’re still a work in progress.

We’ll be emailing our venue coordinator, Rich, about our menu selections this week. I remember last August/September when we met with Rich and booked the venue and he told us we didn’t have to choose our menu until two months before the wedding. That seemed like light years but it’s happening so soon now!

Maybe we should contact the cake bakery to give them our decision for the cake, too. And I think we have a couple additions to our florist order, so I’ll call her soon. Heck, I may just talk to all the vendors soon so I can make sure everything will be as it should. And to keep track of the stuff we have vendors for. And to make sure I remember everyone we need to pay. That would be good.

I think we’ll book our accommodations for the upstate reception this week – flight, hotel, rental car, etc.

I started getting some gifts for my bridesmaids, so I feel a little accomplished in that area, but that’s also a work in progress. We’re still working on ideas for Tom’s groomsmen. I mean, how many flasks, tie clips, money clips, cuff links, or pocket watches do guys really need in their lifetime? And do they actually use any of these things, honestly? I could see using the flask once in awhile, but if anything more than that we have a problem. So we’ll see what he ends up going with.

Okay so if you remember I purchased a laptop for my mom so that we could video chat, send emails and pictures, and so that she could watch the wedding. First off, I still have to figure out how that will work in terms of the venue’s Internet situation, where the camera is going to be, whether someone would have to man (or woman) the camera, etc.

Well, when I was upstate, I revealed Mom’s present to her and she was in disbelief. I couldn’t really show her how to use it because it was Sunday so no one was in the office that could tell me the wi-fi password; it’s a Chromebook and everything needs Internet to work. So I went back the next day and wouldn’t you know no one in the office has a clue what the password is. Apparently someone changed it and they can’t remember what they changed it to. Really?

They keep assuring Mom and I that they will set it up for her in my absence and make sure she sees the wedding. It has been over a week now and it still has not been resolved. “That’s just terrific,” is something my mom says when she’s none too happy, so I think that would fit perfectly right here.

I’ve been worrying more and more about my dress fitting coming up in 2 weeks. I mean, what if it doesn’t fit? I know I just had it on a couple weeks ago and it fit, but what if I can’t sit in it comfortably? What if the alterations still don’t make it look like I want it to? And I still haven’t figured out my shoe situation because narrow your search between 1” and 2.5” heels it’s like a no-man’s-land. And if you’re lucky and do get a few results, they aren’t dressy enough or they’re just plain ugly. And I have horrible feet to begin with, so that kills the search completely. I’m going to check out David’s Bridal tomorrow because they seemed to have a few options that weren’t terribly horrible.

I know, I know, #firstworldproblems.

Anyways, that’s pretty much it for now. In the next week or so, as RSVPs continue coming in, we can begin making the escort card display and seating chart, but not much else can be done until head count is finalized.

Happy Birthday Tom and Happy Fourth of July everyone!